The older I get, the less time I have. The less time I have in life, the less tolerance I have for BS.
I want to spend my life becoming the best version of myself and enjoying it along the way. The best way to do that is to improve upon my flaws. To continue working hard on the things I'm good at, but to also spend time reducing my flaws.
I think one of the best ways to get better is to dig into our flaws. We all have them. We all know at least a few of them. So why not embrace them and make ourselves better? And then repeat that process over and over again?
I wish more people would point out my flaws. I'm not soft (like most people). I can take criticism and harsh feedback.
The problem here is that most people are too timid and don't have the cajones to give you the kind of unfiltered feedback that actually helps. They don't want to point out our flaws because it feels mean to them. It feels spiteful. I think much of that stems from the fact that generally our flaws are responsible for hurting other people. It's why they notice them more than we do. And it's why they never say anything about it to our faces. Because the flaws come with negativity that will come out if they were to verbalize them to us.
That being said. I think relationships would be deeper and more meaningful if people had the balls to have those kind of conversations. Ideally, these conversations would set aside emotions in favor of progress. Deliver the information (ie this is a flaw of yours), discuss resolutions, amendments, and steps forward, then move on.
Most people can't remove the emotion. It cripples them and leaves them no different than before.
Remove the emotion and these conversations become much cleaner and more sterile. Just like surgery. Sure, there will be painful parts, but on the other side we're better off than before we started.
I am often blind to my own flaws. Most of us are. The things others see as flaws I might see as characteristics devoid of positivity or negativity. OR, I might not see them at all. I need the help of other people who have the courage to speak the truth to my face.
the pain is temporary. It's actually fear, not real pain. And there's nothing on the other side of fear. It's like riding your first roller coaster as a kid. It seems terrifying and daunting, but when you get on the other side you realize there's nothing to be afraid of and it's a positive experience.
When you get better from these type of interactions and experiences you take a permanent step forward. The conversations and truths will stick with you. Even if you regress from time to time, you have the knowledge and the ability to be better forever.
It's up to you to do something about it.