The Leadership Void
When was the last time your significant other ask you what you wanted for dinner? Or, when asked the same question said, "I don't know, where do you want to go?"
How often do you get asked at work, "what do you think?"
How often do your kids ask you questions?
What about your friends? When you're with friends, are you the one to initiate or are you the person on the other side of, "what do you wanna do?"
The world has an enormous leadership void.
I used to not be able to see it, but my eyes have been opened.
99.9% of the time, when people in your life ask one of the questions above, they aren't actually asking you what you want to do or where you want to eat.
They're actually asking you to step up and lead.
It's easier for them, right? It's much easier to sit back and be lead than it is to stand up and take the reins.
But in the long term, active > passive.
Passive people end up where they don't want to be. They end up spending time with people they don't like doing things they don't enjoy.
Active people know where they're going and will do what it takes to get there. They do what they want while enjoying themselves and others follow their lead.
Now, obviously not everyone can do this or we'd there would be tons of fighting and conflict and lots of people spending time alone. But that's not the case. Most people will defer to who they sense is the strongest person in the room (not just physically).
Even if you're close relationships or friendships already have a dominant personality (that's not you)...that position is ALWAYS up for grabs.
You just have to be stronger and more confident.
Next time you get asked where you want to go eat, say the first place that comes to mind and then go there.
Say it. Follow through. Repeat.
You'll soon find yourself in an elite group.
The leadership void is enormous and unending.
All you have to do is step up fill it, one small decision at a time.